People assume things all the time. I assume things too. However, I am learning that we really shouldn't assume things at all.
Case in point. Two cases actually.
While visiting my parents last week we stopped at a local store. While in the store this conversation took place:
Store Lady: (as we are walking in) Oh my, he's a cutie!
My Mom: She's a girl.
Store Lady: Oh. Well I just assumed she was a boy because she doesn't have any hair.
Bad assumption. And when did the amount of hair on your head become the deciding factor for gender?
Second incident. Same store. Same lady. A little later in our visit.
Store Lady: She is so cute. And so tiny.
My Mom: She's a little thing, but she's grown a lot.
Store Lady: So how old is she? Four months?
My Mom: Actually she just turned a year old.
Store Lady: Oh. I just assumed she was four months because of her size. I mean her feet are so small.
Seriously? Four months? I mean come on. Yes, MK is smaller than most one year olds, but four months old? And again, when did the size of your feet become a sure sign of your age. I know plenty of women and men who are much older and have extremely small feet.
So I am learning. Learning that maybe I shouldn't assume anything. And learning that when I want to tell someone that their baby is adorable and I am not sure of the gender maybe I should just say something like, "Your baby is precious." And learning that babies come in all shapes and sizes and that when I want to know how old a baby/child is I will just ask, "How old is your baby/child?" I will not assume that they are only months old.
Since having Morgan Kate I have learned so many things.