At first I felt terrible (and I still do, but in a different way) and embarrassed and all of those things. I felt like it was a reflection on me in some way. You know, all those typical mommy feelings. I was so worried about the other child involved and their parents. All of that stuff. But then I started thinking that I don't want to feel some of those things. Of course I want to be concerned and worried about the other party involved, but I don't want to think any less of myself or my child because she bit someone. I'm not defined as a good or bad mommy because of what my little girl did. But I am defined (in some way) by how I handle the situation and how we proceed in the future. I want all of this to be a learning experience for me, Trav and Morgan Kate. I want Travis and I to remember that MK is watching and attempting to imitate anything we do, including biting. Sometimes when we are playing or wrestling with her, we nibble on her arm or tummy. Maybe not such a good thing to do at this particular age. We also need to talk with MK about biting and how it's not nice or the right thing to do and that you don't do those types of things to your friends. And when you do, you have to be punished. (We had this very conversation with her tonight.) As parents I don't think we should necessarily be defined by what our children do, but rather, how we handle and react to what our children do. I hope and pray I am handling all of this the right way.
And just for the record, I know many children go through this type of thing. Many children bite and bite and bite again. I'm sure Morgan Kate will outgrow all of this, but for the time being, I want her to know it's not okay.
And that's how I feel at this very moment when dealing with a two year old. I'll get back with you in about ten years or so. Ha!